Two gay men having sex
Zak continues: “Later on, we were both alone on the landing and he kissed me again. So far, so straight – no need to adjust any labels so far. We chatted for a bit and then we both carried on with the night – not really thinking much about it.” We were both fairly drunk and I remember just feeling happy to see him for the first time in ages and for some reason, knowing he was gay, I kissed him rather than hugging him. George was a guy from my year I’d known fairly well but never been close to. “When I was 20 a load of our sixth form year got together for a party. “I'd only ever been with girls and had never really been sexually attracted to any guys. “I'd never really thought about being bi or gay, he explains. Sometimes, though, even if you’ve never imagined it, when the opportunity presents itself, a primal instinct takes over, as videographer Zak, 25, discovered. Thinking about having sex with a man isn’t a sign you’re gay yourself, no more than idly imaging pushing your evil boss under a truck means you’re a latent homicidal maniac. In the same way I have gay friends who’ve f***ed women, but would never identify as bi, or worry they’re straight. “Why do I continue to identify as straight? I suppose it’s because I couldn’t imagine myself having a relationship with a man. I almost never think men are attractive.”īut if you’re involving a third person in your hitherto straight sex life, does this mean either you or your partner is bisexual? For Mark, it’s not a concern. I suppose it’s possible I might go further one day but I think it’s very unlikely. “I just didn’t really feel the desire to f*** him. So why stop at a blowjob and not take it further? When in Rome, and all that. “I was there with my girlfriend at the time and we’d both got pretty wild.” “I was in the couples room at Torture Garden and a stranger gave me a blowjob,” Mark explains. Read more: You’ve probably had chemsex and you didn’t even know itĪnd what about when contact with another man happens as part of your relationship? Mark, a 28-year-old investment banker had already had one skirmish with a gay guy when his colleague’s boyfriend came on to him in a club bathroom and went down on him – real life really is stranger than soap opera – but his second time was a different matter altogether.
It’s fine to experiment it’s a big part of finding out who you are.” I doubt I’d do it again as that would mean being unfaithful, but I consider myself straight. The friend was finding his feet with his sexuality and James was the willing guinea pig – as long as nobody found out – but if you’re encouraging a gay man to perform fellatio on you, aren’t you gay? “I’ve never been with a man since and I’m happily married now. You could argue that there was an element of exploitation to James’s relationship with his mate. But I didn’t feel guilty and I think he was cool with it.” I always made it clear we weren’t in a relationship and that nobody should know. “I didn’t have a girlfriend yet and my mate was just discovering his sexuality and wanted to try. “I wasn’t as interested in his cock as he was in mine, but I think we both got something out of it.” If there’s one thing hormone-frazzled 17-year-old boys aren’t getting anywhere near enough of as they want, it’s oral sex. “Me and my mate would fool around but mainly he would do it to me,” he explains. Kidding - don’t you dare ask that last one.James, 28, says he regularly got blowjobs from a gay pal in his teens, but he doesn’t consider himself gay. What follows are the building blocks of gay male sex, hopefully providing acceptable answers to all your questions about doggy-style, tops, bottoms, and who pays on a date.
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When a friend blurted out, "You can have sex facing each other?!" after we'd finished watching a racy sex scene on HBO's tragically short-lived series Looking, I knew it was time to take a stand. I don't know about you, but all I got from my health class in Catholic school was a small stick of Old Spice deodorant and the unsettling feeling that Jesus would know when I masturbated. Ever hear of a "no promo homo" law? It's a heinous education law that expressly prohibits teachers from discussing LGBT issues - including sexual health, which can lead LGBT youth to feel invisible, anxious, or depressed. It's not surprising, considering the lack of gay representation in entertainment and the disturbing void of sex education in schools. The basic mechanics of gay male sex remain a mystery to many.